Secret Lives — Gemma

Roy Tersley interviews Gemma. From Februs 46

Let’s start with a little detail of your background.

Well, I was brought up in Battersea, I have one brother and a sister. I came from a very nice home. My father was not very strict but I was sent to a very strict school. I probably could’ve done with some discipline at home but I never got it. I did get the slipper a couple of times at school but on the whole I used to get away with murder.

What did you do when you left school?

I went straight into modelling which I enjoyed very much. I suppose I am a bit of a show off! I like to, you know, be naked in front of people. Anyway I was modelling for quite a while and then, when I was seventeen I met a man who changed my life forever.

Sounds intriguing, tell me more.

Well, his name was Thomas. He was a real gentleman in the proper sense. He was very aristocratic. He behaved at all times with great decorum. Actually, he looked a lot like Prince Michael of Kent, very tall and distinguished and very headmasterly. When I met him he soon told me that he was into caning and discipline in general and had been ever since a very young age. The first time I went to his house he led me into his study and gave me a drink and then took me into his bedroom. I had to wait there while he changed. After a while he returned dressed from head to foot in a gown and mortar board and wielding a cane. He went straight into a lecture about my lack of morals and so on and told me to bend over the end of the bed.

This is not generally the way to behave on your first date. Weren’t you a little concerned?

Well, his personality was so dominant that I could not help but go along with it. I was very nervous, frightened even, but one part of me wanted to go along with it. I had never been ordered around in this way and I enjoyed it very much from that first taste.

What punishment did you receive?

I had to bend over and he raised my skirt. It was a strange position to be in. He took ages before he did or said anything. He told me I was to receive six strokes of the cane and that I must follow his every command to the letter. He then then laid on six really hard strokes which were really painful. The pain was almost unbearable but amazingly I took it. The feeling is hard to explain but I knew this was what I needed.

How did this relationship progress?

Well, we progressed to twelve stroke canings very soon after that. He used to act the part so convincingly. I think that was his thing, you know, the acting out of his fantasy. When he had me bending over ready for smacking, he REALLY was that headmaster! Anyway, he started to introduce a sort of foreplay to caning, you know, to get you ready to receive a real thrashing. He used to make me sit on a chair with my legs apart and then he would come into the room with a long ruler. He used to call it “inner thigh discipline”. He smacked my bare thighs with the ruler which really stung. One of the reasons he liked to do this was because the red marks would really stand out on my skin and I had to go home with all these marks that people could see!

So you realised very early on that this was the sort of sexual thrill you had been looking for.

Yes, although I had fantasised about being spanked very early on in my life. I think I must have been around thirteen or fourteen when I first thought about it. I am not sure where it came from although in a funny way I did quite enjoy the slipperings I got at school. There were sparks, you know.

Sparks?

Yes you know, sparks. Like when you receive an electric shock. If you have ever had the slipper you would know, it’s like when it hits you for an instant there’s a spark. That’s the only way I can explain it. A spark of excitement. Once at school when I got the slipper I had this feeling and I thought, ‘Wow! There’s something about this I like!’

So you think that your interest was sparked off (excuse the pun) at school by slipperings and then lay dormant until you met Thomas some four years later?

Yes, although I would not say dormant. I had had thoughts about it, you know. Like being caught shoplifting or something and getting a spanking on my bare bottom by a strange man. Oh god it’s all coming out now!

Well, that is the purpose of this interview!

I had some thoughts about it but nothing ever seemed to come of it until I met Thomas and then, bang! There I was bent over a bed having my bare bottom caned hard like in a dream.

How do you cope with canings as severe as you received from Thomas?

Well, I am quite tough on the discipline side, mentally. I know I can take more than most people because I really get into the role of say, a disobedient schoolgirl, which I am really, and I do as I am told which is half of my fantasy really.

What became of you and Thomas?

Well, he was not my boyfriend or anything, our relationship was purely disciplinary. After many years he became so fond of me that he just could not beat me anymore, he just did not want to. I used to bring round friends for him to spank and that was fine but we got too close for the kind of relationship I like. But I was glad because he taught me so much which I have greatly benefited from.

So tell me about the next stage of your development.

I went to a ball with Thomas where I met this friend of his. I felt a bit out of my depth because the conversations were all about politics and financial matters and I did not have a clue what they were talking about half the time. But, eventually, I got talking to this friend and he had heard all about me and he said that he wanted to put me over his knee and give me a sound spanking. I wasn’t too sure about him but within 48 hours I was on a plane to New York then in a hotel room where he gave me the hardest bare bottom spanking I have ever received and for which he gave me a car! He used to summon me at short notice — once all the way to Los Angeles — spank me hard and then pay me to do so and I thought, this is great!

You then started to run spanking parties, tell me about them.

Well, this friend suggested the idea. I had been to a Privilege party many years ago and liked the idea and thought, ‘I could do that,’ so I did!

I have played both roles at my parties, dominant and submissive. I find that when I am playing the dominant mistress, men have a lot of guilt that they want to get rid of. Men have told me that they feel so much better after they have been punished and so many of them have become really good friends. What I think is important is to punish them well but really understand them as well.

Describe to our readers who may not have been to one of these parties what exactly goes on.

Well, we have a number of girls and we choose a couple of different scenarios. The most requested is of course schoolgirls! We have a headmaster or headmistress in charge and they act out some real scenes in front of our guests. It is all very civilised. There is drink and food and everyone has a good time. Sometimes the guests act as a board of governors adjudicating at a disciplinary hearing or something like that. It is good to involve them directly in the proceedings. They get to issue punishments as well as watch. Not everyone likes the schoolgirl thing, of course, so we have done other things like dressing all the girls up like Hugh Heffner’s bunny girls and things like that. We try to cater for all tastes. The bunny girls carry two trays, one with drinks and one with punishment instruments and the idea is that you choose a drink and then you get to give the girl six strokes of whatever instrument goes with that drink. That was a good one. Also, we have done a sketch from Allo! Allo! where all the girls are dressed as French tarts in the cafe: that worked really well. We do really strict punishments too, but we also like to do humorous ones as well.

Is the pleasure that you gain from spanking enhanced by an audience watching?

Oh yes, very much so. I am quite an exhibitionist and I love my bare bottom being on display for everyone to see. I love wriggling over somebody’s knee knowing that people are looking on. I really like the hand on my bottom, that is definitely my favourite and a watching audience only makes it better.

How do people get to hear of these parties?

Well, we are in the process of starting up a website but at the moment it’s mainly word of mouth. We have a lot of people that we have known for many years and they introduce friends and so on.

How much does a ticket to one of these events cost?

It is around eighty pounds for a three hour party, although they always go on for a lot longer than that.

Is there a problem recruiting girls to appear at these parties?

No, not at all. I have met over the years many girls who like this sort of thing and they have friends. Again, it’s word of mouth. I have one special friend, Sharon, who always comes and between us we have no problem finding girls prepared to take a good spanking.

What do you call yourselves?

The Academy of Sweet Suffering or ASS for short!

I like it. Let’s concentrate on you personally for a moment. Do you engage in private one to one sessions with your clients?

Oh yes, and I love those. They are so intense sometimes. Many times after I have been spanked and caned I have to strip naked and stand in the corner showing my stripes while the gentleman sips his glass of wine. I love that, I really do. I like to feel his eyes on my bottom while it’s still glowing.

Is there one private session which could be described as particularly memorable?

Well, er yes, (pauses for laughter) The one on Wimbledon Common. This chap is big in the financial world and travels a lot and for some reason we could not go to his hotel room, so we ended up on Wimbledon Common by the golf course. I stripped naked and he had his paddle with him and he gave me such a spanking. It was perhaps one of the most thrilling I have had. We could have been caught at any moment and I couldn’t have hidden because he had tied my hands over my head to the branch of a tree. If someone had come along I would’ve said we were from an amateur dramatics society! I love it so much, you know, the thrill of discipline. I don’t know why there is such a stigma attached to it. If people want to do it then they should be free to do it, that’s what I say.

I wholeheartedly concur with that sentiment and I thank you for coming to see me today. Now how about one of those private sessions…!